Trent and I have a motto for our marriage. Teams and organizations have slogans and such, why shouldn't a marriage, since a marriage is supposed to be a team? Here's our motto:
Hand in Hand
It means more than just that we like to hold hands. Which we do, don't get me wrong. There's a whole lot wrapped up in that phrase. I'm not really sure how it came to be our motto, but somewhere along the way it showed up and has stuck. We even included it in our wedding vows.
It means that we are committed to facing this world as a team, a unit, a partnership. To hold someone's hand, you are usually beside them, meaning neither one of us is ahead or behind the other. Kind of reminds me of that country song: "I want a man who stand beside me, not in front of or behind me."
Sure, we may both have different skills that cause us to lead in various areas of our marriage. Money management? All me. Spiritual leadership? All him. I don't really like when people ask "who wears the pants in that marriage?" because it implies somebody is dominating in one way or another. And that's not cool.
We sure thought we were a unit when we were dating and even when we got married. But getting to know someone is a never ending process. We're almost three years into our marriage (holy cow, time flies when you're having fun) and we are still figuring each other out. It's an adventure, that's for sure, with ups and downs, mistakes, successes, wrong assumptions, correct guesses, middle of the night conversations, but overall a whole lot of love.