Thursday, November 29, 2012

Do You And Your Spouse Talk To Each Other?

Do you and your spouse talk to each other?

"Um, duh Anna, we're married..." 

No, I don't mean conversations about who needs to pick up the kids or when such and such purchase can fit into the budget or how this and that chore needs to be tackled.   Those are good things to talk about too, but I'm talking about real, deep, big deal conversations

How you want to build a family and when
How you'll discipline your kids
A master plan for knocking out debt
What you need from each other to feel loved
Your dream jobs
Your love life
Faith
Theology
Doubts
Struggles
Successes
Hopes
Dreams
The future
God's calling on your life and your marriage

Do you talk about these things with your spouse?

I recently posted on facebook: "Trent and I are not short on conversation topics these days. I love that we so enjoy talking to each other about anything and everything."

It's true.  We have been talking each others' ears off lately.  I'm sure that is partly due to the fact that we are in the process of figuring out answers to in depth questions on paperwork and preparing our hearts and home for foster children.  Ya think?  But it's more than that.  We're talkin' nitty gritty daily stuff up to big picture what-is-God's-call-for-our-life stuff and everything in between.  A few months ago we stayed up until about 1:30 am on a weeknight...just talking.  For anyone who is familiar with our "early to bed, early to rise" routine which usually finds us in bed by 10:00, that is crazy bonkers nutso late for us. 

Do you want to know a really, really good way to feel close to your spouse, to feel like you are one unit, in it together, on the same page, headed for the same goals, maintaining the same priorities in life, looking at the same big beautiful picture? 

Talk to each other.


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